Pregnancy loss was one part of infertility we felt had escaped us. Still, even now it feels surreal writing these words. At our 16 week appointment, we found out we had lost our baby. I don’t want my heart to ache feeling like my family isn’t complete, I want my body to work the way it was intended to work. I am sure others look at my family and struggle to understand.. but she has biological children. I do. I have two miracle babies. You wouldn’t look at my children and know how many doctor appointments, blood draws, injections, medical procedures it took to conceive them.
While TJ and I are grateful to be starting our IVF journey this month, it’s hard to shake the thought that money is literally dictating who can have a child and who can’t. And that needs to change.
We have our first appointment at the fertility clinic this month and while we are very excited, we are scared. We are scared about costs, how much longer we must be patient, how much more my body is going to have to endure and ultimately the fear of it never happening.
I have PCOS and Hunter has low count and mobility. We are one in six experiencing both male and female factors of infertility.
We have our first appointment at the fertility clinic this month and while we are very excited, we are scared. We are scared about costs, how much longer we must be patient, how much more my body is going to have to endure and ultimately the fear of it never happening.
Tennessee Fertility Advocates has been a sense of relief from the "trying to conceive" pressure. We are forever grateful for this group that is advocating for insurance coverage and a community that validates our pain and lifts us up at the same time.
We endured 18 medicated cycles and 3 failed IUIs. After our last failed IUI, we took a break from treatments and began to truly think about our options ahead. We were told that IVF would likely be effective, but the cost of it deterred this teacher and police officer from pursuing it. Because Tennessee's insurance companies are not mandated to cover infertility costs, we were going to have to pay for IVF completely out-of-pocket, after already spending tens of thousands of dollars on treatments thus far.
I could really go into detail but it will be so much more about the frustration regarding the ups and downs and the heartache at times. We know that we cannot give up and we must continue to walk this walk. That is why my heart is to be an advocate for women who are going through the same process, heartache and who cannot afford even the things that we have been able to afford this far by the grace of God. For the other women and the other couples that cannot afford any treatment, I want to be a help to those women in any way that I can...
After one month of thyroid meds, I had my first confirmed OVULATORY cycle! We were over the moon! As I tell people about our story, they circle back to adoption. Usually the conversation goes like this, “So you’re trying to conceive but also trying to adopt?” Or, “Are you still going to adopt if you get pregnant?” To those of you that may be thinking this as well, we want you to know that adoption is NOT less than pregnancy. We absolutely will pursue both. It is our family! We pray that pregnancy is an option for us.
In February 2019 we had our egg retrieval, where they retrieved 14 eggs, 5 of which made it to be frozen. In March we had our FET, transferring 2 beautiful embryos. In April, we FINALLY got that positive test, and blood work confirmed. I was pregnant! I developed a subchorionic hematoma that landed me in the ER. I was bleeding so much I thought I was having a miscarriage. It was there, at the ER, that we found out both embryos took, we were pregnant with TWINS.
Today, we have a beautiful 17 month old daughter, Rowan. Rowan’s twin, Harper, passed away shortly after birth. My girls were born at only 23 weeks. It took 8 long years, but our dreams finally came true.
We were both extremely overweight. We tried anyways. We had no luck. We assumed I was the problem. You don’t really hear about male infertility. So we assumed. Well you know what they say about assuming. I did numerous tests and took numerous rounds of clomid. Still no luck. We got referred to a urologist. My husband had a sperm count of zero. We were crushed. We decided to take a break for a while from trying. My husband decided to have weight loss surgery. He was over 600 pounds. He had his surgery in May of 2018. We started going to the fertility specialist about six months after his surgery. They did a sperm count. He had a count of 100,000.
In the spring of 2018, we started our third round. We ended up with three good embryos, and sent those off for genetic testing. One came back normal. We were so excited, but so much pressure with just one. We transferred that embryo June 2018. Nine days later at my beta, it was negative. We couldn’t believe it. We finally had a pgs tested embryo and it didn’t even take. We had our consult and decided that an ERA was a must. We also made the decision that a 4th round of ivf was all my body could handle, and this would be it for us.
After my third failed IUI, I didn't know how much more I could take and deep down I knew we were probably going to have to look at IVF if we wanted to have a natural pregnancy. However, since we had gone through a lot of out of pocket expenses and my insurance doesn't cover fertility treatment, my RE suggested that I have another laparoscopy so he could explore and remove endometriosis if it was there.
For many years, Frances was plagued with physical pain related to endometriosis along with a great deal of emotional pain due to her inability to conceive. Tormenting herself with toxic devaluing thoughts, she quietly lived a life of shame, embarrassment, frustration, hurt, guilt, and condemnation. She and Chris underwent several unsuccessful attempts to conceive with Intrauterine insemination (IUI).
We found out earlier this year that I have a condition that causes my blood to produce antibodies that make it clot too thick and also some other issues. IVF is our only next option with my condition that gives us a possible chance of growing our family. I can't even begin to explain the isolation, sadness, and rollercoaster of a ride that infertility brings! It is absolutely one of the hardest things to go through especially with costs all out of pocket and the hurt of month after month of disappointment.
Since we had our daughter so easily, we just assumed that we would have no problem expanding our family. As before, we got a positive test immediately but I began to bleed shortly after and was diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy.
She tested my ovarian reserve and it came back very low. This was the moment I realized all those years of not getting pregnant and all the ruptured cysts meant I truly did have a problem. This was the moment the pressure and emotions of this process began for me. I sat in my car and cried. It never felt real until this moment. I knew it was going to be a long road from here.
Our journey started in 2016 after I graduated from PA school! We were ready to start a family. Months went by, and nothing was happening. I knew in my heart God was preparing me for something bigger. I knew we had a problem, but I did not want to diagnose it myself as a clinician.
I told Sante that whether we get our baby or not, I was going to fight for all the women and couples that go through this. I was going to figure out how I could make Tennessee a state that requires fertility coverage. I told him that something good has to come of this. He has been 100% supportive of me...
My husband, Max, and I are high school sweethearts and were married in 2015. We were ready to start growing our family in 2017. After months of negative tests, we decided to seek the help of Dr. Shannon at MOGA. I was diagnosed with PCOS. PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) is a hormonal disorder among women and has many side effects...
The two years we had of trying to conceive were the toughest years we have ever experienced. All of the medications and disappointment took a huge toll on my mental health, as well as Ben’s. As we were going through all of the medications and shots, it seemed as if everyone around us were getting the blessing we wanted.
We sat down with Dr. Ke on January 10th 2018 and told him our history. Immediately after I began more (expensive) testing. He eventually concluded that he expected I had endometriosis, but needed surgery to confirm. We paid $5,000 upfront for this because my insurance would only cover a small portion AFTER my extremely high deductible. The surgery did prove that I had Endometriosis.
In January of 2020, we did our first transfer and were told the amazing news that I was finally pregnant. I will always remember exactly where we were when we got the news. It felt like everything we had been working towards the past two years was finally happening. Unfortunately, only two days later we were told that my HCG levels were dropping and I was experiencing what they call a “chemical pregnancy”. I could not wrap my mind around how I could be pregnant one day and the next day I wasn’t.
I understand that most posts about fertility/infertility are typically from a female perspective and that is just fine with me. But I’m going to switch gears and speak from a new view - mine
Within the first year of our marriage, we noticed we were not getting pregnant. I made an appointment with my OB/GYN. That is when the journey began...
We feel grateful to be able to sell our house and use the funds to pay for IVF. We also feel angry and frustrated that we do not live in a state that requires insurance coverage for IVF.
We've been waiting and preparing to hold our baby in our arms for 7 years. We have a history of miscarriage, ectopic pregnancies resulting in the loss of both fallopian tubes, elevated antiphospholipid antibodies, and pericentric inversion of chromosome 9.
We married in 2017 and have been battling infertility for a little over 2.5 years now. After a year of trying, we were referred to Fertility Associates of Memphis and haven fallen in the category of unexplained infertility.
We endured two nonviable pregnancies and one failed embryo transfer. We discovered that Sarah is on the fence for antiphospholipid syndrome, so treatment for that was added to our protocol. We watched our siblings’ and friends’ families continue to grow.
Walking into this physical he was the healthiest person I knew – even that day his labs looked perfect, he looked great, felt great, but his doctor quietly palpated a mass in his abdomen. An in-office ultrasound turned into an emergent CT...
I never had regular cycles my whole life. We decided in 2013 that we would "see what happens", which is funny when you don't have periods. In the spring of 2014, I talked to my OB at the time and she casually mentioned that I might have PCOS.
Almost a year after being married we began trying for a family, but things just weren’t right. After 8 months of TTC and numerous pregnancy tests, we were still at square 1, so I began “the conversation” with my doctor
We’ve been together since 2006 and have been married since 2012. Kyle and I struggled with infertility for 4.5+ years and will continue to struggle to complete our family.
We decided we would wait a few years before we started trying to have a baby. Within 2 years, we were ready to start trying. One year went by - two years went by...
Two and a half years after we married we began trying to conceive. After an early miscarriage, in October of 2014, Andrew was referred to an urologist where he was diagnosed with varicoceles
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