We met in April of 2016 and got married in September of 2018. We both had talked about wanting to add children to our family, but never had a specific time in mind. About 8 months into our marriage we decided to start trying to grow our family. Much to our surprise we conceived on the first try. We were shocked, but so excited and happy.
On August 15, 2019 our hearts were broken. Alex and I went to a local Ultrasound boutique in our town to find out the gender of our sweet baby. Not long after beginning the ultrasound I knew something wasn’t right. Then those dreaded words, “I’m sorry, but I can’t find a heartbeat.” I was instantly crushed. “How could this be me? Why was God doing this to us?” After we left we headed straight to the hospital. They confirmed what we had already been told and had me follow up with my OB the next morning. On August 16, 2019 I delivered a little angel Boy. He was tiny and had the smallest handprints and footprints I’d ever seen. After the delivery I ended up in the OR for retained placenta. We were discharged home the next day.
Our hearts ache for that little boy in heaven. After a few weeks we found out that he had triploidy and that was not compatible with life. He had 69 chromosomes instead of 46. I thank God that I was able to carry him for that short period of time and that he never knew what pain or suffering was. We fully believe he took him when he did because our hearts couldn’t handle bringing our baby boy into this world and not being able to take him home farther down the road. After discovering the type of pregnancy, I was then monitored for several months with lab work and ultrasounds to make sure I didn't develop a tumor in the uterus called choriocarcinoma.
Finally, in March 2020 we were cleared to try again. We were hopeful and excited, but that soon came to an end. After months of trying and no luck we reached out to our OB and then to A fertility specialist. After testing was performed on each of us we were told that we have unexplained infertility. We’ve tried 3 IUI’s and now have discussed the plan to move forward with IVF. Unfortunately, our insurance has no fertility treatment coverage. We’ve paid for several lab draws, ultrasounds and HSG testing. We paid 100% of our IUI’s and we continue to pay for IVF prerequisite testing. We are fortunate to have been able to do that, but it will take a while before we are able to do IVF due to the cost. Emotionally this has really been exhausting to our family. It’s made me question myself as a woman and feel “broken”. It has created hard conversations, but also strengthened our marriage. My husband is an amazing man. Physically it’s exhausting and wears your body down. BUT.. we know God has a plan for our family and our future. We know if it is meant to be it will be done and we know he is with us every step of the way.
We pray for each and every family going through infertility. We hope soon insurance companies will have coverage for infertility. We hope one day we will have our sweet baby. For now we have 2 fur babies and God has blessed me with a very patient and caring husband. We hope our story can help someone else in the future.
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