My husband Mike and I got married in 2012. I never had regular cycles my whole life. We decided in 2013 that we would "see what happens", which is funny when you don't have periods. In the spring of 2014, I talked to my OB at the time and she casually mentioned that I might have PCOS. She prescribed Metformin and sent me on my way – no confirmation, just a guess on diagnosis. She did not warm me of the side effects or provide me with any other information. I contacted her later in the year to ask if there were any other things to try. She shamed me for not losing any weight (I am considered overweight for my height, but definitely not obese), told me that's all that could be done and to "relax".
After feeling humiliated and defeated, I decided to see another OB at the same practice. She was much nicer and suggested we try medicated cycles. They worked for me for several months, but still not pregnant. My husband and I decided that if we didn't get pregnant on our own by 2015, we'd head to the local fertility clinic. Despite having no insurance, we knew this would be our best chance to have children.
In January of 2015, we met our beloved fertility doctor - Dr. Amelia Bailey. She confirmed my diagnosis of PCOS through various tests and suggested we try IUI. 4 cycles throughout that year and no luck.
In January of 2016, we proceed with IVF - completely out of pocket. My employer at the time offered no coverage. We had a retrieval at the end of January that resulted in 3 embryos. We had our first frozen transfer in March that resulted in a chemical pregnancy. We were devastated as we thought IVF was a sure bet to start our family. We were planning another transfer in June, but my lining wasn’t thick enough, so more waiting. August of 2016 - we transfer our last two embryos that both took! We unfortunately lost one early on, but THANKFULLY stayed pregnant with our first miracle daughter, Ava.
May 1st, 2017 – Ava was born! We were so thrilled. My pregnancy with her and her first year and a half of life were some of the happiest days of my life.
In October 2018, Mike and I tried to explore our options with the fertility clinic. I had a new employer that had just started offering fertility coverage. Literally - the day before my appointment with Dr. Bailey, I attended a benefits meeting announcing fertility coverage. I cried tears of joy in a whole room of strangers. She told me to come back with my next cycle to start some initial testing. December 2018 – I found out I was 7 weeks pregnant naturally at my annual OB appointment! We were beyond thrilled with this miracle.
May 2019 – Tragically and without any warning, our second miracle daughter, Nora, was stillborn at 28 weeks. The start of my third trimester. To say we were/are devastated is a huge understatement. Everything was great with the pregnancy, and there was no explanation of what happened.
As of today, we’ve been trying to have another baby. We conceived naturally again in May, but had an early loss. We’re about to start the IUI process, but thankfully, we have insurance that can help. Otherwise, we’d just have to see what would happen on our own. That doesn’t mean we won’t have cost associated with growing our family, but at least we won’t have to go into as much debt as we did trying to conceive Ava.
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